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I was raised by a mother who had been raised Methodist, temporarily Presbyterian, and later converted to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints in Washington state when I was four years old. I’m not sure what church or religion my Dad grew-up participating in, but he was an extremely liberal christian also converted to the LDS church by the time I was five. I share this with you to give you a peek into my personal religious/spiritual history — raised Mormon by parents who were converts to the religion — I grew-up by all the standards considered normal by mormon terms: I attended primary as a child, young women’s once I was twelve – earned my young women’s medallion, went to girls camp, graduated from seminary, married a return missionary and was sealed in the temple for all eternity.

Yet, through all of those years — my soul greatly struggled with one major commitment (and a few other things) with the LDS faith. I did not believe it was the only true church on earth. In a nutshell: I did not have a testimony of Joseph Smith, and the gospel of Jesus Christ. I struggled to believe in organized religion.

Over the years, I tried so hard — minus a few hiccups through my teenage years I fully committed to the gospel, it’s standards, and attempted to live just as I should by mormon values. I attended church regularly, I participated actively in my religion and helped whenever possible or whenever I was needed, I read my scriptures diligently, I attended the temple — and yet, whenever I was expected to share my testimony or acknowledge that mormonism is the only true church, or that Joseph Smith among others was a prophet of god — instead of feeling a warm confirming spirit that this was true — a serious case of nausea would sweep over me, and I’d get dizzy and sick just thinking the words. A mental battle would break out. It was constantly the opposite experience that I had learned growing up was supposed to happen.

When I was twenty-seven years old, I had just had our third child – our son KJ. My husband and I lived in Provo, Utah – we were completely submersed in the mormon culture in the area. My husband was the elder’s quorum president in our ward – this is a male leader holding the Melchizedek priesthood in the office of an elder over the men in the area, I was a counselor in our primary presidency (primary includes the children 12 and younger) and one Sunday when I was finishing a sharing time with the primary kids, I knew I needed {and was expected} to close the lesson with my testimony confirming that I believed what I had just taught the children. And with all the mental strength I could conjure up, I couldn’t do it. I had finally reached a point where my “fake it till you make it” religious attitude wasn’t going to hold up any longer. I could not be dishonest with myself anymore. I couldn’t tell these kids {mine included in the group} that what I taught them was true, and that I believed it, when I didn’t. Not a fiber of my being believed it. that was the truth.

This is when I learned courage. REAL COURAGE. I had to tell my husband how I felt. I had to be honest.

Being raised LDS (or any religion), you know the intense emotion involved with remaining true to that way of life. You KNOW the heart ache that families go through when a member of the family chooses a different way. You know what they are going to think of you. You already know the judgements that are going to be made about you. You know the disappointment you are going to cause. You know that this doesn’t just affect your family, but also your extended family – your neighborhood – your friends – your children – especially living in Utah – where so many saints live, diversity is not commonly celebrated.

My husband and I were driving around one Saturday afternoon running errands, around this same time, he and I in the front seat of his truck and all the kids in the back seat —– when it hit me —- I had to tell him now.

It was very intense, and because it was so emotional, I don’t remember exactly how it all went down, but it was something like this, “you know how other people are just as committed and devout to their religions as mormons are – i.e. baptists, catholics, muslims, etc. etc” and yet the LDS church strongly believes that we are still the only true church…..”

Yeah.

“I don’t believe it.”

Right then, as my tears were forming and I could see his anger and frustration in his eyes — my husband told me to not talk about this in front of the kids. So, I stopped talking about it. And I knew. I knew I had upset the first person I was going to upset. There would be more. There would always be more…

Now I had to be brave. I had to find inner strength to not cave when all the people I loved chose to question my integrity, question my lack of belief, they would doubt my every inner quality as a person, as a mother.

My husband and I continued our conversation in private, after the kids were in bed. Me: explaining all my inner-most feelings with the religion I had grown-up with, with religions in general – explaining my views about spirituality as I see it. Him: listening. Very intently. So intently that he actually agreed with my perspective, and over the course of the time to follow he abandoned his testimony and childhood religion quicker than I did.

Here’s what followed immediately: I finally had the spiritual experiences and feelings I had been waiting for my entire life. For the first time after all those years, I felt peace. Truly, beautiful peace. My heart and every inner cell of my being felt right. I had confirmation after confirmation within our family and in the life around me, that I had made the correct decision. I felt this amazing inner strength that it was hard to tell those around me how I felt, but that it was right, and would all be ok.

This is one point that I think members of the church don’t always understand: I feel more in tune, and accurate now about my beliefs and inner moral compass than I ever did as an involved member of the gospel. However, with that said, I adore the “church” and greatly miss it at times. If only there was a forum for non-believers who love the philanthropy and social aspects of the church! I often wish there was a room for us at the temples, because who doesn’t want to escape the world more often to a place of peace, and calmness?!?

This time in my life was over eleven years ago – and this is the first time I’ve written about it anywhere. I’ve been writing THIS POST for over a year. It’s odd to me, that as adults, we still struggle to share our honest opinions about such matters. I have dozens of friends who feel the same way – apprehensive to discuss their thoughts. I have friends who passionately don’t believe, but are willing to keep pretending in order to not upset those around them. Religious pressure.

I’d like to mention one more thing: I don’t usually freely offer how I feel about religion because (one) it didn’t relate to my blog. and (two) I feel my personal views, when discussed in finer detail, can be very compelling to other members of the church who may have never questioned their LDS religion. For some dysfunctional reason, I carry a sense of guilt with the idea that someone would leave their religion after hearing how I feel. Everyone should be exploring religion, and spirituality on their own. Yes, our kids all know how we feel and as one of their parents I strongly support them and encourage them in finding and knowing their own individual opinions about such matters.

To be a real seeker of truth,
one must challenge the veracity of EVERYTHING-
truly challenge it without bias.

For the past couple of years I’ve had this growing urge to share my thoughts on the topic on my blog. And each time I attend a bloggers conference I keep hearing the echo – Find your voice. Be genuine. Share how you feel. Others will appreciate the honesty. So, once again, I will likely upset people. But I will also find a community that understands me and/or agrees with me, and maybe, they need to hear my story.

And I realize, this topic is big, the journey doesn’t end here. How do I feel eleven years later? About religion? About the LDS church? What do I believe? How does my family feel about living in the heart of Utah? How are my kids treated at school, in our neighborhood? (maybe future posts. Especially now with the popularity of Mormon intellectual discussions like those by John Dehlin, etc)

So – readers, have you ever had such an experience? Have you abandoned a belief system, a culture, something dear to you?

I have to add one funny story here – in the early years of my blog (c. 2007-09) I had posted about one of our annual trips to Mexico. I think I was wearing a bikini in a couple of the images. If you are unfamiliar with the LDS beliefs – modesty is encouraged and two piece swimsuits are somewhat discouraged, but I think most modern day saints would agree that this teaching is also an individuals choice. I had already not been involved with the church for years at this point of my life and if you knew me personally, you already knew this. Someone anonymous added a comment to the post saying, “It looks like when you go on vacation, your values go on vacation too!” I about died, I thought it was so hilariously judgmental. HUMANS! If that person is still reading this blog and/or anyone else has ever been curious as to what is going on with religion and/or values in our home… hopefully, your questions have been somewhat answered. xoxo.

Photo by: Mindy Johnson – mine & my daughter Kiana’s hands.

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I love this post. And I love you. Love your heart. Love your sincerity. Your honesty. Your bravery. Your genuine concern for others. Your loyalty. I am proud of you for sharing what is nearest and dearest to your heart. You, my dear, are one of THE BEST examples of human goodness. Kindness. Charity. Love. Hugs, sweet friend. And always admiration.

i love you jane. i’m so glad i read this post. (i never read posts). i am truly happy you have found peace. i have found the same beautiful peace through and in the gospel but i love everything you wrote and respect you and hope you have never felt any judgment from me. you really are one of the most thoughtful and kind and good people i know. so glad we are friends. xo.

dusty

loved your post. love your honesty. you have always been genuine. that is one of the qualities i love the most about you. there is nothing feigned, nothing fake. to sarah’s comment… we have not! nor have we felt judged…really by any. people talk about how self righteous utah county is but i’ve always been honest about my feelings and faithfulness and not once felt disadvantaged or seen a look of disgust from any. i’ve seen heartbreak… i’ve seen a genuine sadness by many who believe. i don’t love breaking their hearts but love THEIR LOVE and appreciate the reasons… Read more »

Jen @ the well read fish/sweet guppy

Wonderful post. I am not Mormon, not really religious at all. I was raised Jewish but “lightly” so and now am married to someone who was raised catholic and neither of us practice a religion officially, but we like to cover all the holidays and want to teach our daughter to make her own choices. While I have many issues and questions about what I see from the Mormon church, what I’ve always appreciated is the family values that is instilled in the Mormon families I know. They are some of the most generous and happy people I know. They… Read more »

Beverly S

Thank you for sharing! We, too, have found that deep inner peace as we have stepped away from the church and are living our lives true to our hearts. But, it is a tough thing to talk about and share, that’s for sure. Loved it!

Kim

Come Back.

Courtney Snowden

Love your honesty. Love your bravery and courage. Love you ❀️

Kathryn

This post spoke to me in so many ways. Thank you for sharing. I left my church (Roman Catholic) after a long period of self doubt. The peace I have felt since then has been the best testament to my decision.

Susan Bland

I FREAKING LOVE YOU!! I LOVE how honest and sincere you are, I LOVE how vulnerable you just made yourself to the comments of others…because that is what it is truly like to be a believer of God! To allow others to see us for who we are and know that those who are honest and true to themselves (member or nonmember) will love us for our honesty! I LOVE the Gospel of Jesus Christ and am Blessed to be a member of it…and BECAUSE of it I LOVE and accept who you are in EVERYWAY! We are Blessed to… Read more »

Mariah

You are so brave to share this with your readers. You are not alone. I’m so proud of you for taking a chance and baring your soul.

Janaan Weaver

I believe it is important to connect yourself with humanity, nature, the universe and even yourself in whatever way feels right to you. Following your heart can only lead to good things. Hugs to you my friend!

cicely

I appreciate this post. I often wondered why it was you were not actively LDS, as you seemed like such a perfect Mormon family. It’s hard for me to understand your feelings, because I do find a lot of peace in the gospel. However, I do understand your point of view about the church. I believe that there is truth in every religion. But that maybe we have a little more truth and a clearer perspective than most. With that said, it irks me when I hear people say “I know this church is true.” In my opinion, the church… Read more »

Carrie

Thank you for sharing this. I loved reading because I have gone through a very similar “awakening”. I love hearing about your courage and bravery to do what you felt was right even though it is scary and can be almost traumatic especially being so immersed in the LDS culture.

Laura D

I love this….for so long I have felt like a loner on this path. I grew up LDS and left at 27. My husband, a return missionary, had left a year prior and finally I had the strength to move on and like you said I have felt the most peace I have ever felt in my life. I miss it too sometimes specially now that we live in California and not in Utah. In Utah we had people not allow their children to play with our sweet 2 year old boy because of the decision we had made.

Denise

First off, I admire your courage and bravery to be true to yourself and your beliefs! That is a very rare thing in this world, especially in Utah it seems. This hits home for me, as my husband confessed the same thing to me just several months ago. It has been so, so hard. There is a lot I don’t know about the church…but what I do know works for me at this point in my life. My husband, on the other hand, wants to tell me all the reasons the church isn’t true. While I admire his tenacity to… Read more »

Dusty

Hopefully he’ll learn to respect your views as you respect his! Just show him by example without telling him to do so. One thing I’ve learned in 17 years of marriage is you can’t change ANYTHING about your spouse… You can only love, support and trust the person you chose in their own journey. There is nothing wrong with being devout in any religion that promotes good and after being Mormon for 30+ years the church most definitely promotes good and does good… How could that be bad? He should be stoked you are following your heart and doing what… Read more »

Shannon

Everything Sus said is spot on! I wouldn’t change you (or Dust) for the world! Genuine, kind, giving, thoughtful. Pretty sure you are going straight up my friend!

Kelli Barton

Wow, I am feeling a little choked up right now. I have had a similar experience, only my husband was the one who came to me one night and said he no longer believed. He was also raised in the church, served a misson in South Korea, we were married in the temple, attended church regularly etc. I was completely devistated for months afterward and felt betrayed. I have come to peace with it now and admire him for being honest and true to what is right for him spiritually. He is the kindest, most loving man I have ever… Read more »

Whitney

Your post is ME. Born and raised in Utah. My whole life I felt odd because I didn’t “feel” the way members were saying I should feel. I remember trying to memorize other people’s testimony so that I could say the same thing — everyone’s testimony sounded identical. It took me years to finally come out and say I do NOT believe. I called the LDS head quarters and did something I should have done a long time ago. I had my name removed. About a year later after attending a non-denominational Christian church I was finally baptized just as… Read more »

Dusty

So happy for you Whitney!

Stephanie

Thank you for this vulnerable, honest post. And thank you for daring greatly by writing and sharing it. I love your blog/Instagram and what you create with your family. You’ve inspired me in many ways. I would LOVE to hear more about your journey and how this change has impacted your family. I live in Utah and am married to someone who had a similar realization 8 years ago, and it has been a journey with lots of ups and downs. It has been difficult for the two of us, our family and extended family, and it has changed the… Read more »

Kami R

We love you and your sweet family! You know where I stand so I don’t feel the need to share but I would like to mention my biggest struggle of this entire experience (as ours has been very much alike). I am so happy you haven’t felt judged. The hardest part of living in Utah and Utah county in particular for me is the scrutiny my children are under. Maybe I am overly sensitive when it comes to my children and maybe I don’t notice as much when it is directed to me because I just don’t give a damn… Read more »

summer birchall

Kami! I happend to read this comment and it really broke my heart!!! I hope you know that your kids are welcome at my house, any day!!!!! My poor homeschooled kids could use some friends! HA! I love you and love your kids. You have raised some of the sweetest kids I know! Maybe just don’t send over your little blonde bombshell Simone! Mikey has had a crush on her for YEARS! HA! Don’t tell her, he would kill me! But send her too, Mckelle could use some girls around! I hope when you say “this neighborhood” I was an… Read more »

Court

Just like you have been writing this for such a long time I feel like I need awhile to write a comment. But, I feel like I need to comment. I have never, ever read your blog before, this was sent to me by a dear friend. Anyway, this is so similar to my experience. My husband and I have left the church. He was the brave one and took the first step, but it led the way to a more clear and beautiful life because I felt the way that you did since I was a teenager and he… Read more »

John Wright

You are so brave to share this Jane, and I hope people understand it in the spirit it is given. There are many wrong reasons to leave the LDS church, and clearly you are not advocating those. Until recently I did not realize there are also right reasons. πŸ˜‰ Though I still actively participate in my ward, I recently left the church in my heart. I was truly surprised when my sincere efforts to understand the scriptures, and seek the truth of things opened my eyes to understand God in a way I never have. I am actually leaving the… Read more »

Soxfan4life

It takes great courage, honesty, and introspection to address this topic in the fashion that you did. I strikes me that the church would be well served today in being just as honest and introspective as it considers its history, culture, and claims as “God’s “one and only”. I have observed that a healthy majority of my friends, most of which could have been considered devout at times, have come to develop serious doubts on the church’s validity as they approach their mid 30’s-early 40’s. I don’t know that this qualifies as a panic button moment for the church but… Read more »

Amy

I confess I am not a regular reader of your blog, and this is in fact the first time I have ever visited your blog. But I just wanted to say thank you so much for taking the time to write this post. I too live in Utah and have made the decision to step away from the church and it has been the most difficult decision of my life, yet at the same time the best decision I’ve ever made. I did not come by my decision easily, or lightly. It was a very in depth search and study… Read more »

Natasha

“Be YOU, because those who matter don’t mind and those who mind, don’t matter.” I don’t really ‘know’ you, but I’m proud of you. I admire you for being honest and genuine and really saying ‘This is me and I’m okay with it’. It took real courage to make this post and to be completely honest with you, if you lose a friend or two over it, then that friendship just wasn’t meant to be. The important people in your life will accept you as you are. As someone who did not grow up Mormon and barely Catholic… I believe… Read more »

Amy furstenau

Sweet jane. I am so happy I clicked over to read this post, I almost never read blogs. I love your honesty and understand where you’re coming from 100% I truly believe that every person in the church (or really whatever church they attend) should have a spiritual journey, it shouldn’t be taboo to question, explore and seek your own individual truth. I am so happy you are living yours. I love you so much and feel so happy and proud to call you my friend. Also, I just have to add that I (as an active member of the… Read more »

Lisa

Thank you for sharing your wisdom!

Lisl Sukachevin

First, I’m so glad you’re back blogging again! There are very few blogs written from the perspective of a mom with teenagers, so I always look forward to your updates πŸ™‚ Second, I totally understand where you are coming from. I am not a Mormon, but have been born and raised in a different Christian religion. My Grandfather was a pastor, my father is a pastor, so religion is pretty ingrained in me. My husband has also been raised in the church, and we both attended church schools through high school, and for me, through college. That said, I have… Read more »

Lexy

Jane, I sure love you and your sweet family. I’m grateful to not only be family but your friend as well. xoxo

Tyke

For the first time in my life I feel like someone would understand me. Thanks for your open heart <3

Nikki Madsen

Jane, For years I’ve known about your blog and have never really taken interest in it, I always hear about your remarkable posts and think to myself that I should read them, but never done it. This time was different, I saw your instagram post, and for some reason felt inclined to read it, I am SO beyond glad that I did. Your words hit such a sensitive area for me, I can relate to your words in many ways. Thank you for helping me understand better what I need to do for myself! You are a remarkable woman! I… Read more »

Sara Paul

Dusty & Jane, Thank you for being so honest about such a personal topic. You are both respectful to those whose opinions fall on either side of this topic. Thank you for that. I love being LDS. It motivates me to be a better person–no doubt. That being said, I think what you share is very important. It isn’t our place to judge. It’s personal. It sometimes seems to be easier said than done. I hope that you and your family feel genuine love and friendship regardless of your church attendance. This is a great reminder! Thanks again for your… Read more »

Kristin in VA

I think this is my favorite post of yours to date, Jane. It was so real that I feel like I ‘know’ you that much better. I have always admired your creative eye and fun ideas but now I’m adding yet another reason to the list :). I can absolutely see why it took you over a year to get the words just right (and to muster the courage to do so). Your honesty is not attacking the LDS faith, nor is it encouraging others to leave and question their beliefs. You have an incredible gift (one of many) to… Read more »

gygi

Jane,
Thank you for sharing your personal journey with us. I love you! It’s so important to think of people as human beings and that we are all connected on a deeper level instead of predetermining an opinion about someone because of a label. You are an amazing person and such a wonderful example of a wife, mother and friend. I’m so grateful to have you in my life!
xo

Abbie A

Jane, I typically never comment on blog posts – but I saw that you were back in blogging action, and then read this post and was compelled to stop and say hello. I started following your blog sometime in 2012 (I think) and how I found it, is actually a very funny story. A friend of mine is a former Red Sox pitcher, which is how I was introduced to the Boston area. As a life-long Texan, Boston is just so different, and naturally, I immediately fell in love with that city. Sometime in August 2012, I visited Boston for… Read more »

Tracy P.

Jane… Thank you, thank you, thank you! It was so nice to read someone’s feelings that mimmick mine. As you know, I’m not LDS at all and have NEVER had those feelings telling me it is truly right no matter how much studying and reading and praying is done. But it is so hard to live in an area where people think that if you aren’t LDS then you have no morals or values. I was raised in the South by a mother who taught me all of those things and I cling to them today and raise my children… Read more »

Jared Dean Blanchard

Jane, you know I love you guys – always have and always will…I am close enough to you to know this isn’t something “out of the blue” at all, but you posting it here took a ton of courage and I respect the hell out of you for taking that leap. I’m proud to call you a friend and i have NEVER felt anything form you or that man of yours, but love and respect for what I believe. It makes me sad that some in the Church would treat anyone, LDS or not, with anything but respect because that… Read more »

Kyra

The world is a better place for your presence. You are a brave and wise woman. We only touch down and overlap at varied times and places! But it is always wonderful. Love you tons.

julie harmon sterling

Jane I can not tell you how much I appreciate this post!! I can tell you that our stories are SO similar it gave me chills.Thank you for having the courage it takes to post this.

summer birchall

Jane, I love this post. I love that it is so heart felt. I am sure it has been something you have wanted to say for years, and I am happy you did. Everyone finds peace and happiness in different ways, and that fact that you found yours should make people feel nothing but happiness for you. You make this world a better place. You are a loyal, sweet, kind, loving, fun, and so talented! I am happy to call you one of my favorite friends! Love you tons!

Jo Ann Blanchard

Hi Jane! You and Dusty have always been so kind to us. You included us in your Mexico vacation and also in parties in your lovely homes. We have always been grateful for that kindness. Thank you! Thank you! Thank You! How could we not love you!! Jane, my experience was just the opposite of yours – my father was Catholic and my mom belonged to the Assembly of God Church. I attended both churches. So, when I became close friends with the LDS teenagers in high school, my parents had no problem signing for me to become a member… Read more »

Jo Ann Blanchard

I am looking forward to following your blog!

Oh sweet Jane. I read this post a few days ago, but came back to read the comments. I love this community for the support we can give each other. You are truly loved and admired. I’m sad that some have not had such a positive experience in leaving and going on a different spiritual search. If anything, I hope you know that I’ve loved you from the very beginning. You are such an example to me on how to be a friend, how to love one another, how to be more Christlike in my own life. Thank you. Thank… Read more »

Jerry

Jane. A daughter of mine sent your blog for me to read. I haven’t taken the time to read all of the comments (a little too lengthy)and hadn’t planned to respond as I have read numerous posts like this from others “leaving the Church”. After a couple of days I have felt compelled, maybe because I think you might be sincere and not just defensive about what is deep in your heart. First let me say that my daughter (an active LDS mother of two) was confused that you loved so much about the church (including the peace that is… Read more »

Stephanie

I love you & your family so much! Thank you so much for pouring out your heart & sharing such a personal experience. There are so many who can be so judgemental of a descsion that is so intensely personal. I’ve watched those “good faithful members” become defensive, judgemental, and argumentative when what someone needs is support and understanding.
I hope our pathes are able to cross soon my friend! I miss you!
( PS I PM’d you on FB)

Jerry

Stephanie, Sorry you mistook my comments as judgmental. I don’t do facebook or twitter or pinterest or instagram and /or whatever else is out there for this reason. My experience with them has been that a lot of people who spend a lot of time on them are interested in being heard and seen and affirmed and loved (or to make $). They can also be a serious problem for younger children (as Jane herself has posted). I try to focus on a meaningful discussion that educates and edifies. That is what I was hoping with Jane. A very sincere… Read more »

dusty

Jerry… I think where your piece comes off as judgmental is that you are insinuating that Jane simply hasn’t put the effort into it. You hit that again and again even with analogies… you don’t know her, don’t know us, no idea what we’ve put into this decision. You have not idea the volumes of books we’ve read or the thousands of hours in discussions with others, prayer and such. I don’t know if it’s possible for you to fathom that someone can actually get the same, or heaven forbid, greater peace and happiness outside the church which frankly is… Read more »

Jerry

I’ll take that to mean Jane misjudged that your comment was in fact directed at me. I guess I should feel better that you and I are both judgmental and defensive then.

Sincerely wish you the best

Jerry

dusty

No, Jane was talking about Stephanie’s comment. My comment starts; “Jerry”… definitely to you! πŸ™‚ And yes, I will forever be trying to stop my natural judgmental side. Were you not saying that Jane wasn’t just sincere enough, didn’t give enough effort? Sorry if I judged that wrongly. While I’m at it… I’ve already read “Crucible of Doubt.” I actually had liked some of the points like that it is our responsibility to pick out inspired vs. not-inspired messages when it comes to church leaders and their teachings. Honestly though, the whole thing seems very apologetic and to summarize it… Read more »

Jerry

My bad again. On my cell phone and can’t see all of the comments very well. Apologies to Stephanie and Jane.
Probably a good idea not to respond to your last message.

Regards

Jerry

Jane! Happy to see you are blogging again! quite a lot of comments already on this post so i’ll be brief! I myself love the LDS faith and am committed to the organized factor of it due to the similarities of how god created his church on the earth before joseph smith. My cute hubby has walked me through that logic a few times since I work more emotionally than logically. I believe that firmly and i also hope that I (and others) practice what we preach about christ like love as you take a different path. It takes a… Read more »

Heather

I haven’t stopped thinking about this post for the last 2 days. I remember thinking what amazing parents you and your husband must be when your son was baptized. Your support and love for him was so admirable. (You emailed me some tips on making your crepes and I used that same luncheon idea for my sons baptism as well! thank you!) I appreciated hearing your thoughts as many in our family have left the church for various reasons. We have always loved them regardless of what religion they choose but this post has made me question if I’ve been… Read more »

Dusty

That is incredibly thoughtful of you to recognize and say that about us. Concerning KJ’s baptism. Thank you very much.

kelly

So are you not mormon/practicing norman religion anymore? what about the kids? do they still attend church and activities.

kelly

also what does lomiwan mean? you may have talked about it before but i don’t remember. you might not want to tell, i just think its cute and am interested because i would love a secrete phrase like that one day when i get married and just wondered how you came about it. great post jane.

You are amazing. Thank you for this post & honesty. I have so many feelings/stories on this topic…but all I have to say is…”I feel ya” πŸ˜‰

leslie

I believe also as you do….that part about the Prophet Joseph Smith and β€œthe one and only true church” bit IS and always will be the kicker and ironically is also the very basis and foundation of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I relate in the fact that I grew up outside of Utah in a heavily populated Baptist area for many years and know exactly how that feels when you are not accepted and even β€œcast out” socially because of personal beliefs. Truth is that will always be a consequence to many who believe in something… Read more »

Dusty

Very nicely stated Leslie! I really love how you explain that it makes sense to you and fits so well! Yes, If you and others believe you need to follow the prophets and shout it on the rooftops. I love it.

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